Here are two things that are both true:

True Thing 1 – everyone who wants access to gender affirming health care should have access to gender affirming care.

True Thing 2 – if you think you are genderqueer, transgender, nonbinary or otherwise gender diverse, then you are. This is true whether or not you take hormones. This is true whether or not you want to take hormones, now or ever. Pre-op, post-op or non-op, you have the right to tell others how to treat you with respect.

Hurtful people can say whatever they want. If they work really hard, they can do incredibly destructive things like taking away your right to the medicine you need. Their cruel work is far from harmless, but none of it can touch who you know you are.

They can make our lives harder, we know they’ll try, and they might even succeed, but even when their cruelty hurts us, it can’t change us.